A recent Wall Street Journal article entitled “The Divorcé’s Guide to Marriage” opened with, “Want great marriage advice? Ask a divorced person.” I’d say “Ask History.” After 30 years of marriage to my husband, I’m convinced it has much more to do with understanding what marriage is all about.
These days, the topic of marriage is getting confusing.
In American culture, a war has been escalating over the question, “Who is legally allowed to have something called a marriage?” But we’re asking the wrong question.
The right question is “What was the original purpose of marriage as an institution?”
I’ve been wondering something for a while now. Somewhere down the aisle it seems marriage has changed from a sacred institution of God (Genesis chapter 2) to something that courts decide as they subordinate the original religious ideal beneath an increasingly complicated legal code requiring decisions by the U.S. Supreme Court.
It bubbles up from the oddest of places as even the recent Chick-fil-A vs. gay marriage controversy demonstrates. Why is the definition of marriage so blurred?
In short, sin. To counteract sin, the Bible outlined a few laws. But for the past 250 years, we’ve added new laws upon existing laws to deal with problems with applying prior laws.
But what was the original purpose of marriage?
God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground” (Genesis 1:28).
In the beginning, marriage was intended as one man and one woman to be joined as one flesh by God, then blessed by God to be fruitful (literally fertile, hence increase in number); to fill and subdue the earth; and to rule over it all. God’s design was for the image of God present in both man and woman to be multiplied by length of days and production of offspring.
Somewhere, though, we’ve gone off-track. In the pages that follow, I will trace the history of marriage. In Part 2, I will explain how 6 pivotal events have shaped marriage law–for better or for worse. These 6 watershed moments–some of which represented progress at the time–had unintended consequences as they paved the way to a redefinition of marriage:
- Mutual Consent
- Marriage as a Sacrament
- The Protestant Reformation
- The Council of Trent
- The Clandestine Marriage Act of 1753
- Vatican II
Would you like to learn more about the history of this important institution called marriage? Join me on the next page.








